All of us have strong and unique connection with our bodies and sex, which is extremely obvious in the trans group. Complicated connection lies in between us and our bodies, maybe it is positive or maybe it is negative. Sometimes, I will feel anxious when looking in the mirror because my body is keep changing because of the injection of the hormonal. In addition, I suffer emotional pain from time to time and I have no idea how to set the boundary before the sex and pre-transition.
There is no need for my future date hookup partner knows everything about me and it is unnecessary for him to totally understand me. But I would like to make a positive communication before sex which involves my boundary, transition and my histories. I need to judge if I can trust you based on your response to my introduction. Only when I realize that you deserve my trust, will I continue our interaction. Otherwise, this relationship will be put into an end.
The way we talk is of great importance when facing transgender people
Trans people may have many unconventional ways to describe their body parts. For instance, AFAB may use “dick” to describe their reproductive organs and AMAB may use pussy to describe their reproductive organs. Sometimes, transgender people feel anxious about their reproductive organs. Thus, the usage of another tem can relieve the anxiety. When talking with these trans people, you need to figure out what nouns you can use and what you should avoid.
Of course, not all of us are experts in the transsexual field. Thus, we make mistakes very often. If you are not clear about what you should use, you can consult your partners directly. For example, when enjoy the bed time with you, can I use “suck your dick”? These explicit questions can avoid you many misunderstandings and troubles.
Don’t make a decision according to your judgements
In fact, transgender people are different from cisgender people to some extent. Thus, what you think may differ from what they think. So, making a decision according to your own judgements is a common mistake that many hookup finders will make. For example, maybe you deem that touching the chest is so common that every person would do when in the bed. However, that doesn’t apply to trans people. They are sensitive to these body parts such as the chest, Adam’s Apple and reproductive organs. Thus, before doing so, you are supposed to ask your partner for whether they can accept that. All in all, never make a decision just based on your own thoughts.
Just enjoy the bed time as much as possible
If you are lucky enough to sleep with trans guys, you will realize how exciting it is. In general, they are bolder. And they are brave enough to try many other new things. And sex tools are the best friends with them. Thus, when BBW dating with them, you need to be bolder enough as well.